Season's CHANGE && So did YOU!

This blog is about how well you REALLY know a person. My teacher once said to me, you can never decide to marry a person until you two have been through all four seasons together. I'm sure many people orignally start out as one person and then over the months they show you who they really are. I believe that's because when your attracted to someone, you see what you want to see and, if the feelings are mutual, they will be who you want them to be.

It's not until after you've managed to set aside the initial attraction and concern yourself more with who that person really is, that you start to discover if they possess the characteristics you look for in a significant other. I believe taking the time to get to know one another, beyond what are your favorite foods, whats your favorite color, you know the basics, it isnt until you start to care about their background, where they grew up, who had a profound effect in their lives, what had the most influence on their life, and what they aspire to be, makes for a good, strong foundation.

Seeing a person through "The Good, the Bad, the Ugly" helps you to determine whether your willing to be in it for the long haul or if it just isnt for you. I believe too much emphasis is placed on physical attraction, and sexual satisfaction. When you fully know the person, which takes longer than a few months, and sometimes more than a few years i believe you will have a greater appreciation for who they are and better insight as to why they behave in ways that use to perplex you. In order to gain a better understanding you have to be interested enough to care. It's not so much that people change, because change takes years to complete, its more of, this is who I really am, you were just to blind to see.

NO Clothes ON!

This Question has plaged my mind FOREVER! Why do females, aspiring models, photographers all think that being a MODEL requires LESS clothing?? How does that make you an different from a stripper, or a SEX SYMBOL?? Growing up all I ever wanted to do was be a model, wanted to walk the RUNWAYS in Paris, that was my aspiration at that time "modeling" was about making the clothes..or whatever..the shoes look good. You were supposed to compliment whatever garment you were asked to sport. During my very first photoshoot I almost didnt show up because he mentioned to me that I had a really nice bikini build and should think about modeling swimsuits. UGH! The very thought of exsposing my body gave me a sickening feeling. I never wanted to be a SEX symbol to have others lust after me or whatever. I was always very cautious of my image, didnt want anything to come back and haunt me if I were to make it big. Always trying to figure out how to make things look tasteful. It wasnt until 3 years I became comfortable enough to even model swimsuits and lingerie.

Anywho after browsing soooo many websites I became OVERWHELMED with ASS SHOTS, HOLDING BREAST...sexually provocative photos of young young girls who really want to break out into the industry but go about it the wrong way. Sorta like how aspiring actresses resort to porn hoping to make it mainstream. It's only worked in Traci Lords favor..&& it took years for her to get there && she still isnt the most respected. I'd like to know what kind of up bringing these girls had, were they raised without a sense of self respect, they have no idea their body is a temple?? Alot of the photographers see their desire to make it big and at any cost and coerce them into participating in projects that have their best interest too far behind.


There is more than SEX that sells. I understand that it may be easier but there is a difference between a model and a video hoe. Between a VOGUE fashion shoot and a MENS MAGAZINE photoshoot that exploits women. I'm not knocking anyone who is aware of the difference and accepts all responsibility for their own images but I think we need to explain to these females once you participate in one that is unconventional..it's hard and more than likely the conventional will never be within your grasp. I was young and foolish will only get you so far. That's what agencies, LEGIT agencies are for. Until the differnce is spelled out...I guess these aspiring models will forever have NO CLOTHES ON!