Season's CHANGE && So did YOU!

This blog is about how well you REALLY know a person. My teacher once said to me, you can never decide to marry a person until you two have been through all four seasons together. I'm sure many people orignally start out as one person and then over the months they show you who they really are. I believe that's because when your attracted to someone, you see what you want to see and, if the feelings are mutual, they will be who you want them to be.

It's not until after you've managed to set aside the initial attraction and concern yourself more with who that person really is, that you start to discover if they possess the characteristics you look for in a significant other. I believe taking the time to get to know one another, beyond what are your favorite foods, whats your favorite color, you know the basics, it isnt until you start to care about their background, where they grew up, who had a profound effect in their lives, what had the most influence on their life, and what they aspire to be, makes for a good, strong foundation.

Seeing a person through "The Good, the Bad, the Ugly" helps you to determine whether your willing to be in it for the long haul or if it just isnt for you. I believe too much emphasis is placed on physical attraction, and sexual satisfaction. When you fully know the person, which takes longer than a few months, and sometimes more than a few years i believe you will have a greater appreciation for who they are and better insight as to why they behave in ways that use to perplex you. In order to gain a better understanding you have to be interested enough to care. It's not so much that people change, because change takes years to complete, its more of, this is who I really am, you were just to blind to see.

Some People NEVER Change...

Is change possible?? Is it earnest and permanent or temporary. This is more of a Question and Opinion blog. I'll ask questions...&& Then give my Opinions haha. No right or wrong answer.

Honestly I dont think people can change...I mean their age may change, the color of their hair may change, style of dress is ever changing...but the characteristics the possess that make up their PERSONALITIES which defines who they are...WILL NEVER CHANGE. You cant Teach an OLD dog NEW tricks is my motto. Some people are just who they are, they may even possess the WANT to change but are incapable of making it happen. Sad but TRUE. Stuck in their ways..can be seen as stubborn in the beginning but after taking time to get to know them better you know that if they COULD they would but they just cant.

To me Once a cheat ALWAYS a cheat. Once they lied to you...they will CONTINUE to do so. Fist Hit, Smack, or PUNCH will not be their LAST. I wonder if the people who believe that change is possible, believe it because should the change happen it will benefit them in a positive way and acknowledging that such change doesnt and will never exist would be disheartening?? Neyo has a song called Lie to me..Jasmine Sullivan has a similar song as well....About mind trickery...Some People would rather sit together in the dark than to be ALONE in the light.

You wont get far, living a life of lies. Can reform take place?? && If so..wouldnt it just be easier to remain the same instead of fighting the rest of your life NOT to have a relapse?? Not to revert BACK to your old ways?? Because know this...Once you've professed this "change" the first time you "fall OFF the wagon" it'll be like you never got on in the first place.