Tuesday, March 3, 2009

SHUT UP && Speak...

I was told by a friend of mine that the reason why they resort to dating women of the opposite race was because they dont "talk back" They say just want they want to hear and black women have entirely too much mouth. Hey I cant help that I'm mouthy. It's just apart of who I am. Being brought up in a household where I was told to speak up, say how I feel and treat others how I want to be treated, I find it hard to silence myself. Sometimes I look at it as a catch 22...I express myself and pride myself in being outspoken..but sometimes I dont know when to SHUT UP! To shut up impedes on my personal right of free speech. When do you stand your ground?? and When do you cave in and silence the lion roaring in your chest??

If I bite my tongue and deny the impulse to defend, express myself..I feel so handicapped. && I cant deal with that. I struggle the most with this when dealing with someone. I feel that if I completely express myself it can be viewed as annoying and nagging and I dont want anyone to feel that about me. But like Beyonce says..I shut up for fear that you may leave if I were to speak up. If I were to hush ..and withold my feelings or my personal opinions wouldnt that trash any hopes of open communication??

I feel like everything is a compromise. At a very young age I was taught this method: Learn to care about something you dont care about because someone you care about cares about it. Something like that. Basically saying that even if you dont feel so strongly about what I'm saying, you should try to care about it, because it is something that is obviously affecting me in whatever manner.

After struggling with my strong will and determination...I still can not come to terms with the whole silence is golden rule..You supress your words to make others feel comfortable all the while your feeling uncomfortable?? Why?? What makes their comfort level any more important than your own?? I want open communication, I want someone who is willing to hear me out, someone who is willing to listen and offer advice or words of comfort when needed...or just lend an ear ..I want them to love me even when the words dont come out right, to accept my difference of opinion and understand it is ok that we disagree sometimes, to get that sometimes I say things just to make you mad ( and although it doesnt make it right) I dont mean them. For them I'm willing to do the same because I would never ask anyone to do something I myself would not do. How do you live OUTLOUD when your forced to SHUT UP && SPEAK??

Bad Day!

It's only 10 in the A.M. && I can already tell what kinda day it will be. Just one of "those" days...where everything hits me at once. I couldnt get to sleep for shit lastnite. Kept tossing and turning...woke up at like 3ish..then 4ish..for no apparent reason..then when my alarm went off on the phone I soooo keep hitting snooze..Blah.

Almost busted my ass a few times today..still mad icy. Listened to music to try to make me feel better DID NOT work. Math has NEVER been my thing...&& having hella appointments on tues && thurs is fuckin me up. I'm sooooo good in all my other classes...but so far I have missed a damn test and today I had a fuckin quiz she probably went over on thursday..when I missed the damn class to go to a fuckin child support appointment that he didnt even have the nerve to show up for. && To make kmatters worst we have a fuckin TEST on thursday...so now I have to go over && teach myself the shit that is on the fuckin test..&& make up my quiz because my score sucks ass man. I'm not as upset about my test because I wasnt there when she went over the stuff.
But whatever.

I'm about to study or attempt to study for my People's Law class. I already read all the chapters required for the test...so it's just review. Not so bad. I'm super upset right now though...sittin in the library trying hard to type this shit...but It's so fuckin loud with Ghetto ass bitches wearing too much perfume, not ENOUGH makeup...broke down whores in here. I need anger management BAD.
I Promise you I dont know what to say outta my mouth.. I feel sooo tested.

My class is gonna end mad early...because of the quiz which means Imma have a break longer than three hours..Imma fight myself to stay..His mom is probably gonna be late pickin me up as usual && I'm just gonna go off..

Bad Bad BAD day... wooooooo-saaaa

Sorry but I feel alot better now.

Monday, March 2, 2009

Damn You Feenin!

This doesnt have anything to do with anything that I've written before...shit I said I'm random && Right now I'm on a RAMPAGE!

His mother...BLOWING the fuck outta me. God she is a fuckin feen...I cant get any damn time with my daughter...then she shows up...always in such a fuckin rush to take her from me && go home...Pressed like shit I swear. That is A ok though..she bout to be in for a rude awakening. Doing things I didnt ask her to do just to feel like it's personal. What baby needs two baths in less than 24 hours?? I didnt ask you to wash her fuckin hair && put oil in it. I'm at my damn breaking point. She blew my phone up all this weekend...I ignored almost ALL her calls. She finally gets here && before I can even open my mouth to say..THis is when she last ate...she needs this...you should do that...She dont hopped that ass in the fuckin car && drove off...You just wait until tomorrow. We got a lil ride ...&& I have too much to say.

HIM...piece of fuckin shit...good for nothing..asshole, wanna be father...POSING like he take care of his responsibilities...HELL NO he doesnt. Dude cant even hold a fuckin job...it takes money to raise && support a kid. He doesnt call to come see her, failed to show up to his child support appointment. Didnt show up to her cardiologist appointment..never been to her doctors appointment..but you got her on ya MYSPACE..posing with her..talkin bout how you go hard for your children...BOY STOP! He better be lucky he aint seen me cause I would dig in his shit...Tell him how I really fuckin feel man. What was I thinkin. I shouldve KNOWN better. WHORE! They all can kiss my ass. They dont do shit for my kid...they nag me && get on my nerves...I have had it with them. I'm tired of giving him the benefit of the doubt..&& if his momma wanna be a momma so fuckin bad she better pop another one out because she aint gettin MINE! I am her mother, I decide what when how and why shit goes down in regards to the kid that I pushed outta me with NO help of them. THey can all go to hell. Sorry but I'm FIRED THE FUCK UP!

Hey Baby..

Just for fun. Nothing too serious. Passing time.

Lemme tell you about my love...
It's WIDER than the Ocean
Deeper than the Bottomless Pit
Forgiving to a fault
Affectionate and Honest
Relentless it's NEVER ENDING...
Easy like Sunday Mornings...
Warm in the Winter
It sees no colors
Addictive
The caffine fix you need to jump start your day..
The pillow you hold when going to sleep at night..
It's like the hit of a cigarette after really good sex
The kiss to your tears..
It's heartfelt
Hard enough..but not too hard..
There when u need it..
&&
even when u dont...
Like the rain hitting your face..
my love is moist
Refreshing....
My love is Gentle, Patient
My love...naw you cant buy it in the store..it's 1 of a kind..
Special just like ME
My Love....

Beneficial Friends*

Hot topic. Eveyone has an opinion. Tania I'd love for you to weigh in...piggybacking off of your 1 night stand jump off....ok here goes..

Ever been friends with benefits?? Do you think it's in poor judgement to participate in such behavior?? Now I'm aware that some people find in extremely beneficial..but do you have to have certain characteristics to successful be a "friend?" Now me..I always draw from personal experience..Imma tell you...I'm too emotional to do that..I believe sex is SACRED...I'm giving that person a piece of me..accepting any consequences that I may incur as a result of such behavior. Now I wont lie..back in the day..I had 1 "friend" but the circumstances were completely different. At the time all I wanted was the "benefits" not so much the friend. Anywho that person caught feelings...even though we had mutually agreed it would be just a sexually relationship (for lack of better words). K..here's the question: Do you think you can have a friend with benefits without someone catching feelings?? && What about those who use/think sex could possibly lead you to the next level?? I honestly believed my friend thought that a committment would result after engaging in our sexual escapades.

Now for those who have set their minds && feel like it is what it is..they can have friends with benefits and dont need anymore from the other party...what happens when that person finds someone?? Do you continue your sexual adventures.. Are you responsible for making your significant other aware of the what went down between the two of you?? && How would you react if that signifcant other asked that you no longer remain friends with that particular person because it would make them uncomfortable?? && If you should choose NOT to say anything..would you still say that you two have open communication?? Friends with Benefits sounds very easy but ..when you look at the bigger picture..Is it really WORTH it??

&& In what way is it any different from a one night stand?? Do you think a friend with benefit is better if its a person you once tried to talk to && it didnt work..but the sexual attraction is too strong to resist?? Orrr...Could it be with a friend you cherish and hold near && dear to your heart?? I know it isnt right for everyone ...but for the very few that it appears to be the PERFECT solution would you consider them COMMITTMENT PHOBES?? People who are scared of committment, dont believe in monogamy, who feel as though they will never settle down? Idk..Think about it though...To BE or NOT to BE BENEFICIAL FRIENDS?? Now that's a REAL QUESTION

#2 is better than NO number at ALL!

So we've heard second place NEVER wins the race. But what about those who just want to be in it?? The people that would rather Place then to not have even ran. I've myself have never been one to compete. I dont see the point, if your confused..leave me alone. I dont have time for the mind games && what if I sit through all the bullshit && still end up ALONE. But even though I get LONELY sometimes I dont have a problem being by myself. Some people arent like that though, they would rather settle...they suffer from that "Lie to ME" syndrome you know the dont ask dont tell..

I wonder are you that desperate to feel loved && adored...is being alone so frightening, is your self esteem that shattered that you will settle for anything?? Now I wont lie..I've been there...I call it a moment of relapse..then I hop back on the wagon && keep it moving as if it never existed. Can you be number 2?? && At what cost are you will to accept those terms?? DOnt you still end up hurt?? What lies are you telling yourself?? Is it "Well I'm wifey so she doesnt matter" Or "He/She really wants to be with me..they are just confused" "We arent in a relationship so I dont really have a choice" "They are missing me, they spent this day or that day with me I'm sure she wasnt on their mind" ...the list can go on. What are YOU telling yourself that makes it ok to be anything but THE ONLY ONE?? Oh Oh my favorite.."No one is monogomous anymmore..everyone does it"

I use to laugh at the females who settled telling themselves they were the "Ride or Dies" because what happens when you still riding but the wheels have fallen off...&& that person has decided they dont want you. That they would a new slate...Is it ok to settle if your on the rebound?? Or are you asking for more hurt?? I've been single almost a year now..&& I've never believed in rebounding...but if your not the only one is it still a rebound?? I swear I could go on and on..my mind is always racing with new topics..
I know very many people who do it..Is being someone's number 2 better than no number at all??

100 TRUTHS

(taken from V :)

1. Last beverage- Water. Gotta stay Hydrated.
2. Last phone call- Ayanna.
3. Last text message- My friend Jessica.
4. Last song you listened to- My Love: Mariah Carey feat The Dream
5. Last time you cried- Does it matter?

HAVE YOU EVER:
6. Dated someone twice - Something like that. Whats your definition of dating??
7. Been cheated on? - Too many times
8. Kissed someone & regretted it? No.
9. Lost someone special? My puppy Tiffany. I loved her.
10. Been depressed? Yea..it comes & goes
11. Been drunk? "drunk", this year? However UNlady like it may be..YES

LIST THREE FAVORITE COLORS:
12. Pink
13. Black
14. Hunter Green

THIS YEAR HAVE YOU:
15. Made new friends ? Not that I know of. I have very FEW friends.
16. Fallen out of love ? No. You don't fall out of love. You consiously decide to love someone or you don't. When you start to fall out of love with someone what you really mean is you have already made up your mind you don't want to be with that person anymore and you are just taking time to find reasons to convince yourself of it. <--I agree with Jade
17. Laughed until you cried ? - No but I'm mlooking forward to it.
18. Met someone who changed you? - This year?? No.
19. Found out who your true friends were? - A little early in the year to be cutting people off.
20. Found out someone was talking about you? I'm usually the TALK OF THE TOWN.
21. Kissed anyone on your friend's list? This year?? Yea.

TRUTH:
23. How many kids do you want to have? More than the one I have
24. Do you have any pets? -1. A poodle named Ryan
25. Do you want to change your name? -Not anymore. It is what it is.
26. What did you do for your last birthday? -Had a Birthday Dinner.
27. What time did you wake up today? - When SHE* called
28. What were you doing at midnight last night? - Having a great time with friends.
29. Name something you CANNOT wait for? Graduation Day
30. Last time you saw your father?
31. What is one thing you wish you could change about your life? - There are so many things..but if they changed..then so would I && thats NOT always a good thing.
32. What are you listening to right now? -Life after Foster Care
33. Have you ever talked to a person named Tom? NO
35. ?
34. What's getting on your nerves right now? Nothing.
Randoms
36. Whats your real name ? Shameka
37. Relationship Status ? Doesnt exist.
38. Zodiac sign: Sag
39. Male or female – what about them?
40. Elementary? - Walter P Carter
41. Middle School?- So many
42. High school? - RANDALLSTOWN
43. Hair color? - Dark Brown
44. Long or short ? - Long
45. Height ? - 5'9 1/2
46. Do you have a crush on someone? - Someone managed to catch my attention.
47. What do you like about yourself? - That I'm caring and Understanding, Forgiving && Loving.
48. Piercings? - 3.
49. Tattoos? - 1
50. Righty or lefty? - Righty

FIRSTS :
51. First surgery? - Havent had 1
52. First piercing? - my ears
53. First tattoo? - My star
54. First best friend? - Nicole Weldon
55. First sport you joined? - Gymnastics
56. First pet? - Jingles
57. First vacation? - Myrtle Beach
58. First concert? - Nsync
59. First crush? - ???
60. First alcohol drink? - Black Watch Vodka

RIGHT NOW:
61. Eating? - Nothing
62. Drinking ? - saliva
63. I'm about to? - lay down
64. Listening to ? The tv
65. Waiting for? Things to fall into place

YOUR FUTURE :
66. Want kids? - Yea
67. Want to get married? - Dont know if I believe in it.
68. Careers in mind? Police Officer
WHICH IS BETTER WITH THE OPPOSITE or SAME SEX?
69. Lips or eyes? - eyes
70. Hugs or kisses? - Kisses
71. Shorter or taller? - Doesnt matter
72. Older or Younger? - Maturity
73. Romantic or spontaneous ? -Romantic
74. Nice stomach or nice arms ? -Doesnt matter
75. Tattoos or piercings? - Tats
76. Sensitive or loud? - Sensitive
77. Hook-up or relationship ? Relationship
78. Trouble maker or hesitant ? NEITHER

HAVE YOU EVER :
79. Kissed a stranger ? - no
80. Drank hard liquor ? - yes
81. Lost glasses/contacts ? - no
82. Sex on first date? - NEVER
83. Broken someone's heart? - ? I dont thik so
84. Had your own heart broken? - Too many times
85. Been arrested? - yes
86. Turned someone down?- Yes.
87. Cried when someone died ? Yes.
88. Liked a friend that is a girl? YES.

DO YOU BELIEVE IN:
89. Yourself ? At times
90. Miracles ? Yes
91. Love at first sight ? No.
92. Heaven ? Yes
93. Santa Claus ? NO
94. Kissing on the first date? NO I dont know where your mouth has been.
95. Angels? Yes.

ANSWER TRUTHFULLY:
96. Is there one person you want to be with right now? Yea.Sometimes
97. Had more than one boyfriend/girlfriend at one time? Not my thing
98. Do you believe its possible to remain faithful forever? till I dizie? sure. there will always been times of temptation/forgiveness/compromises, but if you truly want to be with someone, it's very much possible.,---I agree with Jade
99. What's the one thing you cannot live without?Food or water

100. Posting this as 100 Truths? Sure.