JUST S.E.X.

Continuing to have sex with an ex a BAD habit???
Hummmm good question. We all have been guilty of it, at some point in time. Question!!!: Does having sex with an ex in some way or another HINDER your ability to move on?? Could it be compared to quicksand?? If 1 foot is in..your still gonna go down. Is it purely a sexual thing for one and an emotional connection for the other?? Again with the motive..some people use sex an a way to express themselves and seek out emotional connections they otherwise would not recieve. && If you are having sex with an ex..what, other than the title be revoked, nullifies the committment to eachother?? Is that not an easy way to get all caught up in the limbo..the on and off again mess known as break-up to make-up?? How can you successful heal all wounds and move on if your bound to the bed with your SUPPOSED [IN]signifcant other?? && How do you seperate the past from your future??

A friend of mine hit me up the other day asking if it were right that he continue to sleep with his ex girlfriend even though she now has a boyfriend?? Of course anyone who knows me ..knows I completely disagree with it..but hey..it's a matter of your own personal morals. That got me to thinking...how many people are still sleeping with their exes even when they claim to have moved on from them?? && How can you seperate and sever all emotional ties while remaining sexually connected. && For those continuing these escapades while being involved with someone else..how is that fair to the other person?? && If your goin to obviously put that EX before the PRESENT..you may as well just be with the ex and save the PRESENT the heartache right??

&& If it's JUST {S[e]X} why does it have to be done with the ex..and not with someone new?? Could it mislead either party?? Or do you have to approach the situation as if it were a business deal?? And if it is only just sex...do you kiss them in the mouth?? Say I love you, even if you do?? Do they stay over?? Spend the day?? Because if so...I wouldnt say that would fall under the JUST {S[E]X} category.

Beneficial Friends*

Hot topic. Eveyone has an opinion. Tania I'd love for you to weigh in...piggybacking off of your 1 night stand jump off....ok here goes..

Ever been friends with benefits?? Do you think it's in poor judgement to participate in such behavior?? Now I'm aware that some people find in extremely beneficial..but do you have to have certain characteristics to successful be a "friend?" Now me..I always draw from personal experience..Imma tell you...I'm too emotional to do that..I believe sex is SACRED...I'm giving that person a piece of me..accepting any consequences that I may incur as a result of such behavior. Now I wont lie..back in the day..I had 1 "friend" but the circumstances were completely different. At the time all I wanted was the "benefits" not so much the friend. Anywho that person caught feelings...even though we had mutually agreed it would be just a sexually relationship (for lack of better words). K..here's the question: Do you think you can have a friend with benefits without someone catching feelings?? && What about those who use/think sex could possibly lead you to the next level?? I honestly believed my friend thought that a committment would result after engaging in our sexual escapades.

Now for those who have set their minds && feel like it is what it is..they can have friends with benefits and dont need anymore from the other party...what happens when that person finds someone?? Do you continue your sexual adventures.. Are you responsible for making your significant other aware of the what went down between the two of you?? && How would you react if that signifcant other asked that you no longer remain friends with that particular person because it would make them uncomfortable?? && If you should choose NOT to say anything..would you still say that you two have open communication?? Friends with Benefits sounds very easy but ..when you look at the bigger picture..Is it really WORTH it??

&& In what way is it any different from a one night stand?? Do you think a friend with benefit is better if its a person you once tried to talk to && it didnt work..but the sexual attraction is too strong to resist?? Orrr...Could it be with a friend you cherish and hold near && dear to your heart?? I know it isnt right for everyone ...but for the very few that it appears to be the PERFECT solution would you consider them COMMITTMENT PHOBES?? People who are scared of committment, dont believe in monogamy, who feel as though they will never settle down? Idk..Think about it though...To BE or NOT to BE BENEFICIAL FRIENDS?? Now that's a REAL QUESTION

Support, Loyalty and the Cookie

Watching Oprah...really wanting the new STEVE HARVEY book "Act like a Lady, Think Like a MAN." The topics on the show are verrrrry interesting in regards to the opposite sex. Tslking about setting standards and sticking to them. I myself have relinquished my rights so many times && therefore I made myself a throwback fish. They hook me...they reel me in && then when they are done ..they THROW ME BACK. The story of my life. I told myself that relinquishing my rights...was me compromising and not being so stubborn. But Steve brings up the fact that not standing my ground has set me up for failure. That they no longer respect me or my wishes because if they did they would rise to my standards instead of allowing me to lower them.

I'm so about to go out and get his book.

Anway the whole reason why I'm here right now is because of the Support, Loyalty and the Cookie. The supposeded three things guys (in regards to his book) or whomever needs is are those things. They need to know that we Support them in whatever they do, that we have their backs. That our Loyalty lies with them, that we are devoted to them, loving them, caring about them and nothing or noone can change that. But can you be loyal to a fault?? && The COOKIE..is the goods of course they have to have that. Anywho just putting it out there...are those the three things needed to really and truely maintain a happy, healthy home??

Imma go out && get the book. I'm sure his book will provoke more blogging topics as well as be insightful to me. =)

OverSEXED??

Ok, so how many times have we been told that we should possess a healthy sexual appetite?? That, obviously the lack of such appetite would lead your significant other astray?? Well lately I've been thinking could there possibly be a downside to that?? Is there such a thing as OVERSEXED??

Can a person feel overwhelmed by their significant others sex drive?? Can their OVERsexual appetite turn someone OFF?? Can their need for sexual stimulation/penetration make a person feel used? Will it take away from the affectionate apsect of the situation?? Such as too much sex && too little affection??
Would it bother you?? or cause the sex to become boring or, "OLD" too soon if you constantly engage in sexual activity??

And for those who possess such a sex drive, is it because that's how they really feel or is it because they think the sex will keep the person?? Trust me if all you have is sex, you dont have much. && If the appetite is soooo strong at what lengths are you willing to take to satisfy this need?? Would you go as far as to say you have an addiction?? && if so, would this addiction lead YOU astray if the need wasnt met?

My conclusion is there has to be a balance because too little or too much is lacking in some other department People seeks out an emotional connection to fulfill their need when they've already met a worthy sexual counterpart. Too much of a GOOD thing is NEVER a good thing.