Thursday, March 3, 2011

Natural Hair Division

I stated earlier this week as a FB status that where there are too many visions there is DIVISION* When I originally posted this I said it regarding life and the direction your life is going, however it can be applied in all aspects of life. I am going to use that quote in reference to natural hair.. After viewing a picture posted of an underaged female in a salon getting a relaxer posted on someone’s page with a caption of how they are addicted to the “creamy crack” etc I felt compelled to respond not only to the picture but to speak out about the division in the hair community.

#Truth One is NOT better than the Other, it all depends on YOUR preference. I think it’s a bit hypocritical for anyone to talk about someone regarding what they choose to do with THEIR hair. If I were to do a show of hands of how many people got relaxers growing up, very few people would stand with their hands down. The truth is we all or the vast majority received perms at an age where we could not consent to getting one. With that out the way, as we matured, we have been, for lack of a better word, “enlightened.” This means that we now know the pro’s and cons of getting relaxers in comparision to natural hair. We are aware of whatever damage we may suffer as the hair is broken down, we have also learned via youtube, natural hair boards, as well as personal experience better ways to care for your hair; this includes natural, transitioning and relaxed hair.

I am in no way, shape, or form attempting to bash anyone, but I would like to put this out there: There is nothing wrong with sharing the information you have come across in reference to your hair, it all depends on the person and their ability to receive it. One can not be forceful and should not just attempt to walk up on someone and begin discussing their hair and what YOU think they are doing wrong or what they SHOULD be doing with THEIR hair. That is why you have YOUR OWN HAIR, to do as you please, should you need more HAIR to “control” or, for lack of better words “rescue”, there is YOUR children’s hair. Behavior such as that can be seen as forceful and offensive and in MY opinion is UNACCEPTABLE. When someone wants your helps, or wants to help themselves in learning better ways to care for their hair, they will seek out information as it relates to their desires. How many of us got tired of our hair && sought out information on how to grow it longer, advice from others on how to properly manage it?? We found all the information we needed some way or another and that same opportunity is afforded to them. I understand that we have been enlightened but for many of us we were exposed to perms for most of our lives and I personally think it’s unacceptable to talk down about people who choose to do that, especially for the people who are newly natural. This type of behavior is what causes a divide in the community. TO each it’s own and if everyone worried themselves with only themselves I think people wouldn’t feel so negatively towards the natural hair community.

#Truth All hair will GROW!!!! Transitioning, Relaxed and Natural. With proper care ALL hair will grow. I have heard many times during my transition that naturals like to wear their hair straight as it is of convienence to them; well in some people’s cases relaxed hair may be of convienence to them. A pro of relaxed hair would be that it does not require the same about of time or attention as that of natural hair. Natural and or Transitioning hair requires dedication, money to find products that work and patience. I would suggest relaxed hair for the people who don’t have the time, and or money to maintain or PROPERLY care for natural hair.

Many people mistakenly think that just because it’s Natural means it’s healthy and that you can do whatever you want to it. Although natural hair may be more resilent it is NOT always the healthiest and just because it’s natural doesn’t mean it will GROW!!! When you hair is natural you still have to take the proper steps to keep it healthy as to avoid slit ends and to retain length. EXAMPLE: How many naturals have cut their hair, how many videos have been posted to youtube discussing HEAT DAMAGE?? Heat Damage as a result of attempting to Maintain a Straight Style on Natural hair.

Natural hair consists of Kinks, Coils and Curls which in my opinion is better off left alone and in it’s natural state. However, natural hair has often times been damaged as a result of the hair been manipulated in a style that it’s UNnatural for it to maintain. When you SWEAT your hair poofs up, if it’s HUMID your hair poofs up. As a result of the Poofing or swelling of the individual hair strands due to the water mollecules in the air or on your forehead, one would have to “go over” the areas with a flat iron or hot comb. Many times this step will be repeated on mutlitple occassions until the hair is washed and styled in a hairstyle more suitable for natural hair.

Most recently naturals were exposed to the harmful effects of formaldehyde found in the Brazilian Kertain Treaments also known as BKT, in an attempt to acheive straight hairstyles that would not disrupt the curl pattern in natural hair, while being worn straight for weeks at a time. This was more harmful as the chemical, formaldehye, could be inhaled by those close to you as they were exposed to it due to the treatment you received.

I have always said my hair Best holds it’s OWN curl, not the one that you get from a curling iron, and that’s why within a day the hair falls limp and the curls disappear. Natural hair provides versatility but it doesn’t make us better than our counterparts. There can be positives found on both sides and instead of focusing on the negatives how about we celebrate everyone’s freedom of choice and embrace individualism. Understanding we are all inclined to believe that our way is the right way (whichever way that is) we have to come to the realization that sure it is the “right’ way for US and that’s why WE chose it. We do not all have to do the same thing to be on the same page. We CAN co-exist, we already have similarities such as being women, and having our hair’s best interest at heart, filled with the desire to grow it as long as we can. There is Enough room for Everyone :-)

He who is NOT busy being BORN is busy DYING … worry yourself ONLY with YOURself concentrating on how to make you Better♥ Self-Worth, Self-Appreciation, Self-Acceptance.

Monday, December 20, 2010

Keri Hilson: No Boys Allowed Review

Do you have any idea what a HUGE Keri Fan I am?? Ok, Lemme put you D.... I stalked her career BEFORE it even started after she was featured with the likes of Polo Da Don, Timbaland and Diddy; so you know I was front and center for her Debut "In A Perfect World." && When she released "Pretty Girl Rock" (of course I recieved the song way before it hit radio airwaves) I instantly fell In[LOVE] with it!! After all I AM Pretty && boy do I ROCK!!! lol Moving along I was able to preview "The Way You Love Me" && could NOT stop dancing to it.. Who was excited about her new album?? ME!!! We'll it's here && here's MY take on it

Ok Let me start off by saying I had HIGH Expectations for this album, her new sound, her new look, I couldn't wait to get my hands on it && now that I have it, i question if maybe I expected to much, putting unrealistic demands on an Artist so much so that she was unable to deliver what I was looking for. Could her album be more than mediocre?? What else could she have done?? I began to question my taste in music because I feel more than disappointed when listening to this album.

Let's address NO Boys Allowed --> WRONG!! I was expecting all female features if any, girl power, positivity, feminism.. WRONG!!! She has FIVE features && they are ALL members of the Opposite SEX. Blah!! Not to discredit her features but on an album titled NO Boys Allowed, am I the ONLY person who expected her album to stay true to it's title?? Lets Review the features first.

"Buyou" feat J. Cole - Upbeat song, definitely a club hit, reminiscent of Scrubs, Bills Bills Bills, Get Ya Money Up etc. This song will have a few guys upset and a few females claiming they are getting $$$ that their bank accounts DO NOT reflect *shrugs* Good song though. I like.

"One Night Stand" feat Chris Brown - This will grow on me I'm sure. Listening to it the first few times I was totally turned OFF but maybe it's the title more than the words. Given my disgust regarding behaving irresponsibly, endangering your life, your health by engaging in a ONE NIGHT STAND, the song didn't have much appeal to me. && the mere suggestion of staying "Another Night" would no longer make it a one night stand but hey whatever. Chris Brown songs like himself, nothing out of the norm.. You may like it.

"Lose Control (Let Me Down)" feat Nelly - Keri sings this song similar to the style of Rihanna, in fact I could possibly hear Rihanna singing it and it being a hit. I do enjoy listening to this, another "booty shaking" song. At some point in time she request you to pay to watch her shake, wind, and roll; (Something strange for a piece of change?? Or Am I Reaching??) Stripper Anthem I can see it now. Nelly sounds great, this will not be the comeback he may hope it will give him but it does keep his name out there. Overall a great club song.

"Pretty Girl Rock" feat Kanye West - I mean it's Pretty Girl Rock, I loved the song when I heard it, before they OVER played it on the Radio && all the "Not So Pretty" girls started singing it.. Kanye is Kanye so this is a solid remix.

Now onto the songs I really enjoyed on the album:

"Toy Soldier" - Every girl has come across a guy who claims to be her Prince Charming, who won't do her wrong, someone she can trust and per the usual, is betrayed.. This song is a Reflection of that relationship, the cries, the lies, the betrayal.

"Beautiful Mistake" - Leaving on Good Terms. Every relationship end doesn't have to be thee END, dramatic or nasty. When you engage in adult relationships, where good communication is present and both parties can accept things for what they are you are able to appreciate the time spent fully understanding that it's not in your best interest to continue seeing one another. :) No regrets!!

"All The Boys" The way she sings this song is Incredible* It's just something about it that makes me smile. The relationship where everything just seems to fall into place. Realizing that you haven't been loved until now, this very moment and by _________. Farewell to All the Boys who have ever had the privilege to be in your life and took your presence for granted. What you are able to walk away from determines what you will walk into*

Overall this Album was not exactly what I was expecting but it's not that bad. I would like to have heard a few more songs promoting girl power. My ability to listen to this album straight through is challenged but when the skip button is utilized her album is decent. For those who are true Keri Fans I would suggest you support her project.

Sunday, December 19, 2010

Someone Just Had A Birthday.. You'll NEVER Guess Who It Was (Hint Hint)

                                           Can We Say Getting BETTER With Age :)

"I Don't Know Much About Clothes
   But My Hair Looks Fierce!!"
                                                                                                   -Amanda Lepore


Album Review: "Calling All Hearts" Keyshia Cole

Calling All Hearts Album Review: Our Favorite Love Songstress is BACK!!! I swear she never fails to DELIVER* Probably the reason I am ALWAYS (x3) checking for her. On this Album expect to go through the “motions” per the usual she has a song for EVERYONE—-> Here I will list my favorite songs in no particular order—>

“Tired of Doing Me” Feat Tank [Cuffin’ Season Much] Summary: Self Explanatory. Being Single is ok BUUUUT I’m ready to try YOU out :) Yay!! Don’t you just LOVE the feeling you get when you become interested in someone && are anxious to see where things will go?? Yeah?? Me too!

“Take Me Away” My FAVE!!! 5 stars* YES!!! If you are In LOVE, Loving Someone, Thinking about Falling or Wanting to be IN Love this is YOUR Song. This song will be a HIT!

“Last Hangover” feat Timbaland [It’s OVER—> You had your run and things didn’t work out ..We have ALL been here at one point and time, for some, will be returning to this emotion sooner than later..Drinks on Me??

“Thank You” The beginning sort of sounds like “Sent From Heaven” to me, interestingly enough it’s a song with her talking to her Savior and saying Thank You. Something that everyone should say, something that should be second nature given all that HE’s done for us, but fail to say “Thank YOU”

This CD is Classic Keyshia, a few upbeat songs but she doesnt stray from what made us fall in[Love] with her. Any true Keyshia Cole fans are encourgaged to support her movement and purchase her album.
"Thee ONLY Place You'll Wanna BE is Underneath My Christmas TREE!
        Ho Ho It's CHRISTMAS...My Christmas Tree is Delicious!!"
                                                                                                      -Lady Gaga

Sunday, December 5, 2010


I know most of my blogs seem to start off the same way but OMG!!! It's been a while sheesh... I swear if it was not for the fact that I FINALLY got a few followers (Hey yall!!) I prolly would have just said forget it haha. Naw but really it took a while for me to log in.. I forgot the email address I used.. I forgot the password.. I have been trying to log in for about 20 minutes woooooo! Got a lot of catching up to do Sooooo much has changed... had a great fall has been blessed..classes are almost over and new ones scheduled to begin.. not sure when but I will be updating soon.