SHUT UP && Speak...

I was told by a friend of mine that the reason why they resort to dating women of the opposite race was because they dont "talk back" They say just want they want to hear and black women have entirely too much mouth. Hey I cant help that I'm mouthy. It's just apart of who I am. Being brought up in a household where I was told to speak up, say how I feel and treat others how I want to be treated, I find it hard to silence myself. Sometimes I look at it as a catch 22...I express myself and pride myself in being outspoken..but sometimes I dont know when to SHUT UP! To shut up impedes on my personal right of free speech. When do you stand your ground?? and When do you cave in and silence the lion roaring in your chest??

If I bite my tongue and deny the impulse to defend, express myself..I feel so handicapped. && I cant deal with that. I struggle the most with this when dealing with someone. I feel that if I completely express myself it can be viewed as annoying and nagging and I dont want anyone to feel that about me. But like Beyonce says..I shut up for fear that you may leave if I were to speak up. If I were to hush ..and withold my feelings or my personal opinions wouldnt that trash any hopes of open communication??

I feel like everything is a compromise. At a very young age I was taught this method: Learn to care about something you dont care about because someone you care about cares about it. Something like that. Basically saying that even if you dont feel so strongly about what I'm saying, you should try to care about it, because it is something that is obviously affecting me in whatever manner.

After struggling with my strong will and determination...I still can not come to terms with the whole silence is golden rule..You supress your words to make others feel comfortable all the while your feeling uncomfortable?? Why?? What makes their comfort level any more important than your own?? I want open communication, I want someone who is willing to hear me out, someone who is willing to listen and offer advice or words of comfort when needed...or just lend an ear ..I want them to love me even when the words dont come out right, to accept my difference of opinion and understand it is ok that we disagree sometimes, to get that sometimes I say things just to make you mad ( and although it doesnt make it right) I dont mean them. For them I'm willing to do the same because I would never ask anyone to do something I myself would not do. How do you live OUTLOUD when your forced to SHUT UP && SPEAK??

OverSEXED??

Ok, so how many times have we been told that we should possess a healthy sexual appetite?? That, obviously the lack of such appetite would lead your significant other astray?? Well lately I've been thinking could there possibly be a downside to that?? Is there such a thing as OVERSEXED??

Can a person feel overwhelmed by their significant others sex drive?? Can their OVERsexual appetite turn someone OFF?? Can their need for sexual stimulation/penetration make a person feel used? Will it take away from the affectionate apsect of the situation?? Such as too much sex && too little affection??
Would it bother you?? or cause the sex to become boring or, "OLD" too soon if you constantly engage in sexual activity??

And for those who possess such a sex drive, is it because that's how they really feel or is it because they think the sex will keep the person?? Trust me if all you have is sex, you dont have much. && If the appetite is soooo strong at what lengths are you willing to take to satisfy this need?? Would you go as far as to say you have an addiction?? && if so, would this addiction lead YOU astray if the need wasnt met?

My conclusion is there has to be a balance because too little or too much is lacking in some other department People seeks out an emotional connection to fulfill their need when they've already met a worthy sexual counterpart. Too much of a GOOD thing is NEVER a good thing.