All Because of YOU??

How much of what you do is based on someone else?? I think from the start we live our lives for everyone else but the person we should be living it for, OURSELVES. We start of trying to live up to what standards placed on us in our households by our parents, by our teachers and by society as well as our friends. As we get older we place less empahsis on what our parent expectations for us are, we call that part self discovery, and try to place more emphasis on what we expect from ourselves. I keep hearing sometimes we are the hardest on ourselves and I find myself agreeing more often than not. && A majority of the times those expectations we "think" are placed on ourselves by us, are really placed on ourselves with regards to our significant others. Like she expects me to be a beast in the bedroom, or to cry when she leaves me, to forgive those mistakes, and to be loyal...are a few examples, have you found yourself pushing aside your own opinions to seek out others opinions on what YOU should be doing for YOURSELF?? Even when you have a clue as to what you already want to do, do you ever find yourself need reassurance in regards to what's BEST for you?? Has the way we have been brought up to care so much about what others think of ourselves that our own view of ourselves no longer matter?? Are we so incapble of good decision making that the only way to determine self relevance is to compare it to what other's view/personal opinions are?? Do you find yourself trying to change because someone had a negative opinion of you or something you've done in your present or your past?? How do you determine Self worth from a realistic point of view??