This blog is about how well you REALLY know a person. My teacher once said to me, you can never decide to marry a person until you two have been through all four seasons together. I'm sure many people orignally start out as one person and then over the months they show you who they really are. I believe that's because when your attracted to someone, you see what you want to see and, if the feelings are mutual, they will be who you want them to be.
It's not until after you've managed to set aside the initial attraction and concern yourself more with who that person really is, that you start to discover if they possess the characteristics you look for in a significant other. I believe taking the time to get to know one another, beyond what are your favorite foods, whats your favorite color, you know the basics, it isnt until you start to care about their background, where they grew up, who had a profound effect in their lives, what had the most influence on their life, and what they aspire to be, makes for a good, strong foundation.
Seeing a person through "The Good, the Bad, the Ugly" helps you to determine whether your willing to be in it for the long haul or if it just isnt for you. I believe too much emphasis is placed on physical attraction, and sexual satisfaction. When you fully know the person, which takes longer than a few months, and sometimes more than a few years i believe you will have a greater appreciation for who they are and better insight as to why they behave in ways that use to perplex you. In order to gain a better understanding you have to be interested enough to care. It's not so much that people change, because change takes years to complete, its more of, this is who I really am, you were just to blind to see.
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